You Have to Choose Change If You Want to Make Change

It Might Be Controversial But…
I recently made a post on my social media accounts that resonated with some and annoyed others (if you don’t already, follow me on IG & TT because I share some golden nuggets and each channel has mostly different content).  I said that you can’t just want to change, you have to choose to change or it won’t last.  This is actually a hill I’ll die on.  Why?  Because I’ve been in both shoes.  I’ve had clients in both shoes.  It may be a subtle difference, but there is definitely a difference.  It’s a difference in mindset, a difference in perspective, and a difference in buy in.  You can want to change until the cows come home, you may even try to change, but any change you try to make won’t last until you’ve made that choice.  It’s a whole different point of attraction.

I promise you, I absolutely know what I’m talking about.  Before I made that powerful choice to live a life of joy, a life I no longer wanted to escape, I would try to implement changes in my life, but they never lasted.  I’d try eating this way, or exercising that way, or reading this book and adopting those principles. But underneath it all I hadn’t actually chosen to change my life, I just wanted to.  The moment I made that choice to change my life into one I loved, I felt it in my whole body.  I KNEW my life was going to change.  I knew it with the same certainty I know my name or that I know I need oxygen to breathe.  I didn’t know how it would change, I had no clue what that would look like, I just knew it to the depths of my soul that it would.  And, shocker, oh boy did it! 
 
Try it Before You Buy It
Now let’s not paint a picture that isn’t true here.  Not everything I tried on for size fit me, and some things I didn’t expect to fit did.  Because when you decide to change your life in a big way (and choosing joy after not having it for so long is a pretty epic change my friend) you’re going to fumble along a bit.  Nobody gives you a guidebook and map on how exactly to get there.  (I mean, except me.  Remember, that’s kinda exactly what I do.)  But even then, you’re going to try things on for size, see how they land see if it feels right.  Some will, some won't.  Changing your life is a journey, it’s the journey to joyful.  And, lucky for us on, that journey we get to try before we buy.  The point here is that we’re excited about what we’re trying, we’ve got an open mind, and we know it’s going to let our authentic selves out for the first time in possibly ever.

When we’ve made that choice we’re attracting the things to us that will help us change and grow.  Not all the changes will last, but you better bet that a bunch of them will.  And sure, you’ll slip and stumble, maybe even fall down, but you won’t go backwards.  Because you’ve decided to change, and the moment you did that something fundamental inside of you did change. You changed your point of attraction so that you’d find the changes that work for you, the ones that absolutely will last.  Or, at the very least, the ones you’d try on for size to help clarify your vision and understanding of the person you want to be, of what brings you joy.  It’s that choice that has the transformative power, and momentum behind it, that you’ve been craving.
 
So What If You Don’t Make That Choice?
I have had clients that I’ve worked with who come to me because they want to enjoy their life.  They know life, as is, isn’t working for them.  They’re surviving, but they don’t love life and they definitely aren’t thriving.  In our work together they will even have some pretty awesome breakthroughs and perspective shifts.  Because let’s face it, if you’ve chosen to come to me the desire to change your life is pretty strong within you.  They’ll be happy for a bit, think they have a handle on things, and go their own way deciding they no longer need my services.  But then, they slowly slide back into the habits, behaviors, and thought patterns that didn’t serve them in the first place.  The change they experienced didn’t last, and not because they were no longer working with me, but because they never chose change in the first place.  They just wanted it. 

Let me be clear, the clients I’ve worked with that didn’t just want to change but chose change, and got to a place where they feel they could go it alone, they are thriving.  Here’s a secret, your coach isn’t the one who makes thriving in life possible.  Nope it was that choice you made to change that did it.  I just give you a safe space and some inspiration to figure out what that change looks like for you.  The sweet souls that slid back into old habits and patterns, they never made that choice, never felt that internal click that comes with aligning with choosing joy.  That moment still may come, they’re closer now than they were before, it’s right there for the taking.  But, to answer a question somebody asked in a live not to long ago, what happens if you know you should change but don’t want to... nothing.  Or at least nothing significant.  You have to buy into the changes and do it because you know you’re ready, otherwise they simply won’t last.
 
But Change is Scary!
Like I’ve said, you have to make that choice.  You have to choose a life of joy, and prioritizing your wellness.  Because if you don’t, you may want it but you’re still chasing it.  You’re sticking to the comfortably familiar, even if it doesn’t serve you, because radically changing your life is scary AF.  And let me tell you, when you make this choice your life will change drastically, but it’s actually not as scary as you think.  The universe knows exactly what needs to happen and when.  It’s not going to pop up and say hey, jump up to the top of that 10,000 foot mountain right this second.  Nope, it’s going to show you a path that takes you 100 feet where you get to rest until you catch your breath, then it’ll show you a path that takes you the next 100 feet, then the next 50, then the next 500, and so on and so on.  And with every change in elevation you’ve changed on a fundamental level, you won’t go back. 

And you’ll have moments where you’re scared shitless that you will slide back down, but you won’t.  Will you be perfect and never experience lows, or pains, or old habits…no…no you definitely won’t.  Because you’re human.  Will you never take a detour because a squirrel caught your attention…no…no you won’t because…that’s right you’re human.  But you’ve made the choice and you can’t help but continue up because that’s what you told the universe you wanted.  And all of a sudden, a little ways along your journey, you realize that you’re having fun just taking the journey.  You know you aren’t at the top yet, but you’re enjoying the getting there.  You’ll realize that joy isn’t at your final destination, but something that’s available to you right now while you’re on your journey.
 
Final Destination
If you haven’t made the choice to actually start the journey, if you don’t have that end result, that mountain top, as a set destination... you’ll just keep wandering around lost and not as happy as you could be because you’re wandering aimlessly.  Sure, you might have some fun along the way, but you always come back to recognizing that you’re right back where you started.  So you have to make that choice, you have to have your ultimate destination in mind.  You have to decide that you ARE changing.  I promise you, once you do life becomes magical and all the changes that you make have a very lasting effect.  So, have you made your choice?  If you haven’t but you’re close, I guarantee the moment you do you’ll feel that rightness click into place.  And if you want help navigating from there, I got you.