My Why is About You, but also About Me, But Mostly About You

​This Is What You Deserve
Have you ever had one of those days, weeks, months, maybe even just an hour where you feel on top of the world?  You know what you want, and you’re excited not only to get it, but to thoroughly enjoy the journey along the way?  If you haven’t, or if it’s been a while, you deserve to.  And that right there is why I do what I do.  Because that’s what I want for you!  I feel like it’s a really good time for me to share my why with you.  It’s an interesting thing having a blog that not only chronicles my journey but is still of service to you when you read it.  To walk that path of showing you that I know what it feels like to feel angry/scared/sad/depressed/anxious/resentful/etc so you know that I empathize, to know you aren’t alone, while at the same time giving you hope and inspiration by sharing what I’ve learned.  My number one priority has to be me (yours should be too!) but a very close second is you.  Because there’s something I want you to know, and I’m going to tell you and then I’m going to tell you why I want it for you.

You deserve to feel happy, to experience joy every day, to love your life, to love yourself, to be excited about the future.  You deserve to know how to handle stress and sadness and worry so that when it comes up it doesn’t derail you.  You deserve to live your best life, to be the most authentic version of yourself, and to thrive.  You deserve to know that even if you aren’t where you thought you’d be, or where you want to be, that it’s possible to get there.  You deserve to put yourself first and practice self-care guilt free knowing that by doing so you’re giving your best to the people who matter most to you.  You deserve to enjoy the journey and stop worrying about the destination.  You deserve to feel free, to feel gratitude, to feel joy, to feel love, to feel passionate about every part of your life.  You deserve to start (or continue) your journey to joyful and realize pretty quickly that it’s been yours for the taking all along! Read that paragraph again and again until it sticks.
 
This Is My Why
Ok now I’m going to tell you why I want that for you.  Spoiler Alert: This is also why I do what I do.  I want that for you because it’s your birthright.  Well-being, joy, connection, love, laughter…just by existing you deserve that.  You don’t have to earn it, there’s no reward for work put in, it simply is what you deserve.  I want that for you because I have been on the other side of joy, of love, and of accepting well-being as my birthright.  I’ve felt lost, lonely, stuck, depressed, sad, angry, anxiety ridden, resentful, worthless and unworthy, hopeless, needy, confused, adrift.  I’ve felt ready to end it all, questioning why I’m even here, knowing the people I loved would be better off without me.  I’ve wondered what’s wrong with me, why good things never come my way, what the point of it all really was, why the universe and life hated me.  I’ve gotten so low that I craved any escape I could get, any attention that would make me feel not so very alone, any relief from the suffering.  I’ve experienced that guilt that comes from feeling so horrible when I know it could be worse.  And all of those feelings, those thoughts, those experiences are devastating.  They leave you floundering and alone and desperate.  I know that pain.

But I also know that it’s possible to come back from that.  I know it’s possible to do a 180 and experience true joy.  I’ve made that journey.  I’ve felt those highs.  I know what it’s like to love your life, to have joy every day, to be excited by the future, to enjoy the ride.  I know what it’s like to learn how to love unconditionally, to nurture the relationship with self so you can’t do anything but cherish your life.  I know what it’s like to finally uncover your passions and your purpose.  I’ve been at rock bottom and I’ve climbed back up.  I know what emotional freedom feels like.  And there is nothing, NOTHING, I want more than for you than to have that too.  In sharing my journey, I inspired others and the sheer joy and almost maternal-esque love and pride for them I’d feel when they started shifting their perspective and loving their life, and coping with their troubles in a positive way, lit a spark in me that can never be extinguished.  Not because I did anything for them, but because I just offered up a different perspective that allowed them to do it themselves.  It’s become my purpose and my calling because every single person deserves that, especially you.
 
No Such Thing As Perfect
You know what you deserve, you know what I want for you, and you even know why I want it for you now.  But let me tell you what else I want you to know about this journey that I am truly excited for you to take.  It isn’t easy street, it’s a voyage.  It’s healing, it’s brutal honesty with yourself, it’s discovery, it’s trial and error, it’s trying things on for size, it’s opening your mind and your heart to unthinkable possibilities, it’s awakening, it’s remembering things you never even knew you had forgotten.  It’s not linear.  It’s backwards and forwards, it’s up and down, it’s highs and lows.  It’s eye-opening, awe inspiring, jaw dropping, heart wrenching, mystifying, clarifying, and wonderful.  It’s unearthing your authentic self, discovering your best version, and raising your vibrations to the highest level.  It’s work, but it is the most rewarding work you’ll ever experience.

I’m not offering you paradise or nirvana or heaven on earth.  I’m inviting you to love your life.  And let me tell you my beautiful friend, life is real.  I’m not an eternal optimist telling you every day is absolutely fabulous all the time.  Sorry, that’s bullshit.  It’s not.  Shit happens, life can hurt, you have no control over anything but yourself and you’re on a spinning rock with millions upon millions of other people who are helping co-create this reality.  BUT, and it’s a big BUT, you can have joy in every day, even on the “bad”days.  You can find tools that will allow you to communicate compassionately, respond instead of react, thoughtfully observe, gracefully handle stress, nurture your love of self (and others), and bounce back from the unexpected far faster than you’ve ever thought possible.  You can discover ways to shift your mindset so that the bad doesn’t seem quite as bad, the scary as nothing to truly fear, and the future as something to eagerly anticipate instead of dread.  You can enjoy your life, all of it.
 
I Believe In You
I want all of that for you!  Not only do I want it for you, but I know it’s possible.  You absolutely can have that.  And while this is about you it must be said, I know you can have that because I have it.  If you can take a depressed, anxiety ridden, suicidal woman and turn her into a beacon of joy and hope and excitement then it can happen again.  And you can be the person it can happen to.  That’s what I want for you!  And if you don’t know how to do it alone (another spoiler alert, most people don’t) then reach out for help.  If you ask me, I will give you support, a safe space to be you, encouragement, and 100% faith in the fact that I know you can do it.  I will give you all the tools and tricks and tips I have at my disposal so you can find your joy even faster than I did! Because you don’t have to suffer and barely survive life anymore.  And you absolutely don’t have to take your journey to joyful alone.  I mean, if we hire tour guides why not hire a guide for journeys of personal transformation and inner growth?  No matter what, you deserve the world.  If you choose me to help you get it, I would be honored.  And if you don’t, I’m still going to cheer you on and believe in your inevitable success.  That’s just what I do because we both deserve it.

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