​Habitual Energy Can Be A Beast!

​So What Happened Was…
I’ve noticed over the course of my journey so far that habitual energy can be an insidious presence.  Sneaking up when you least expect it.  Impacting your actions, your feelings, your thoughts.  I like to think I’m fairly aware of it and catch it early on for the most part.  But man, LBL Week showed me that it is far more prevalent in my life than I even realized.  In telling myself that I am my best version and acting accordingly, when those old thoughts and behaviors popped up as frequently as they did I was honestly a little surprised.  Because here’s the thing about anybody who decides to change their life into one they love and explores a spiritual path to get there… we really like to think we’re above stuff like that…but the truth is we’re not.  Nope, turns out we are, in fact, only human.

Now I’m happy to say I’m actually ok with that, I don’t judge myself for my humanness.  I don’t think less of myself when I catch habitual energy popping up.  And I certainly don’t let myself fall into a depressive state anymore because I’ve done something I consider less than ideal.  But don’t get me twisted… I will absolutely be using those moments as a catalyst for growth and improvement.  There won’t be any settling, because that’s just not who I am anymore.  Nope, instead I will celebrate the moments that are less than perfect because I know something pretty bad ass will be coming my way because of them.  You can also bet that I am now very aware of when habitual energy is rearing its head.
 
So Habitual Energy Is What?
If you aren’t familiar with the term habitual energy let me break it down for you.  It’s probably pretty darn close to what you’d imagine it being.  Things you do, thoughts, behaviors, actions, etc that you’re so used to doing and thinking that they simply become habit.  But here’s the kicker, they don’t serve you.  They might be comforting in their familiarity in some cases, but they aren’t contributing towards your highest good.  Most of them probably feel pretty icky and if you were to drill down you’d see they come from lack of self-love and not feeling worthy.  It can be that voice in your head telling you that you made a bad choice, or that you aren’t good looking enough, or that you’re an imposter.  Honestly when it comes down to it, if it in any way isn’t celebrating that you are here and alive it’s probably habitual energy.

There will be people that want to argue that I’ve gone too general here but I disagree.  If you are on a journey to love your life, to change at a fundamental level, to thrive… then anything that says otherwise, or keeps you from doing anything other than that, is probably a habitual energy.  Now, like I said, there’s no need to beat ourselves up over those moments when you notice them.  In fact, just the fact that you noticed it is pretty damn rad, because the you that you used to be, the one you didn’t love so much, never would have even noticed those thoughts or actions as being habitual and not serving us. It’s pretty amazing what we’ve become conditioned to accepting, especially when it’s coming from us and not others.  You can set, and stick to, boundaries like a champ when it comes to other people, but have you checked on your inner monologue lately?  Mine wasn’t as impeccable as I thought it was once I started paying attention to it.
 
Clarifying What You Do Want
There was some pretty sexy synchronicity happening over the past few weeks though in regards to all of that fun stuff.  And by fun stuff I mean noticing that I had habitual energy popping up way more often than I expected.  How is that sexy synchronicity happening (you may be asking)?  Well it just so happened that even though I was hyper aware of that energy popping up, I also had messages pouring in from the universe left and right reminding me not to trip out about it.  An Abraham Hicks audio here, a Thich Nhat Hanh quote there.  It was almost as if the universe was saying girl we’re only giving you just enough time to observe the habitual energy but not anywhere near enough time to be disappointed in yourself because of it.  And I’m not gonna lie, it felt really good.  Loving myself, knowing I’m a bad ass bitch that is just slaying life even in, and maybe especially because of, her moments of imperfection.
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I chose to focus on that.  Because when does focusing on what we don’t want ever do us any favors?  Think about it for a second.  Think of something in your life that you don’t want or want less of.  Go ahead really focus on it for a minute.  What feelings are coming up?  Did you feel your energy get icky? (I’m running with icky as a technical term today my friends, it’s just so accurate.)  Ok now think of the opposite of that, think of what you want more of in your life.  Is it joy, love, laughter, prosperity, connection?  Focus on the more that you want.  Maybe get a little crazy and fine tune some details of what it would feel like to have that.  How did that feel?  Did you feel your energy shift, get a little lighter, maybe smile a bit?  You see, when you focus on and clarify what you do want it feels so much better than it’s opposite!
 
Moral of my Story
So I invite you to do that.  Actually let me clarify here, I invite you to do a few things.  First, take some of that LBL Week energy, the knowing you are your best self already, and pay attention to how you’re flowing through life.  Next, notice when habitual energy pops up.  Then, celebrate your awareness of it.  Simply observe!  No judging, just witness it.  Maybe give yourself a high five for noticing it at all because old you wouldn’t have.  And last, find its opposite, the thing you want more of and focus on that.  Clarify it.  And do me a HUGE favor, whenever you’re visualizing or imagining or daydreaming of your kick ass future…always leave room for OR BETTER.  Because if there’s one thing I do want us all to be in the habit of, it’s never upper limiting ourselves. No go forth and have fun with it.  Let me know how it goes for you.  Because, as always, it’s so much fun to share our journey with the people who will celebrate you simply for being on it and I am definitely one of those people!